The Mother\Daughter Thing
Friday, September 2, 2011 at 9:57AM 
Tomorrow, K3 and I are heading to Canada for a little girl time... shopping, strolling along the waterfront, fine dining, etc. I wanted her to have a little somethin, somethin since she didn't get to go to Ireland. I'm really looking forward to spending some time with her and getting away by ourselves. She's spontaneous, curious and fun to laugh with and I know we're going to have great time! Plus, she's been to Canada before so she's very comfortable with our destination. That helps a lot!
On the flip side, as we approach the 10th anniversary of 9/11, the 10th anniversary of my mom's death has arrived as well. I don't know how I feel about that. I feel mostly at peace when I think of her, I feel sorry that she wasn't a happier person... I wonder if she would have mellowed had she lived longer. I still don't like to talk about her though. There's such an idealism about the mother/daughter relationship and sometimes it just doesn't work. And when one dies and the other remains, sometimes just finding peace is all that is left. And hope... there's always room for hope.
I hope that had my mom lived she might have felt the joy I feel at the thought of a girl's weekend away with her daughter. I hope she would have come to realize how important that connection is.
I know that for all my daughters, it is something I absolutely cherish.
Have a wonderful long weekend everyone.
Lovingly, AG
Reader Comments (5)
Have a wonderful time....and I know exactly what you mean....I think we come to a certain peace with what the relationship was with our mothers. The finality of being left to process it alone gives you perspective. She was what she was--and I think to the best she was capable of being. And that is enough for me to remember. Hugs.
Have a great time ... the weather will be perfect!
Have a wonderful weekend. Your daughter is so lucky to have such an awesome mother.
Toast your mom at dinner ... and have a wonderful time with K3 .. xo
You are such an amazing mother & woman and this picture perfectly reflects that. I'm glad you two get to spend some *shopping therapy* time together. It sure never hurts.
I don't get to see my baby girl until later this month & it's been killing me. Looking at my own daughter, I can't understand why my mother treated me as badly as she did but it was ultimately her loss as much as it was mine. Had she stopped all the crazy rants & antics at some point there might have been hope for us, but she sealed that deal on her own.
What I have always & will always miss, is not having even one parent that cared about me beyond the fact I was a burden they had to deal with. Even though you & I have gone to battle in different ways for our kids, we have at least grabbed the bull by the horns, with lots of love. K-3 is a lovely girl with a billion dollar heart and smile. Hmm. I wonder where she got that?
And guess what? It doesn't even happen with boys, LOL! If they want some quality time they get it during the holidays, talking sports (mainly football) with their fathers. Time alone with daughters is special and there's nothing to compare....