Adjusting
Monday, October 25, 2010 at 6:23AM 
Over the weekend, TOG and I spent some time adjusting to K3's diagnosis and talking about how to plan for it. Since the diagnosis happened mid week, he was either waking up early trying to talk to me or I was staying up late trying to talk with him. Having time to process together was very positive!
As much as we've always known what K3's issues were, having it spelled out for us and understanding which of her challenges might get better and which are 'as good as it gets' simultaneously helped to clarify some of the steps we need to take for the future and succeeded in scaring the crap out of us. TOG particularly had a couple nightmares which I totally get. There's normal fears, and then there's having your fears defined and waved in front of your eyes!
However, I don't want to paint too gloomy of a picture. K3 seems far more relaxed and at ease then I've seen her in a while. It is a big step for her to go from knowing she's different but not understanding how or why to understanding what does and doesn't work for her.
I spent a long time looking for the right picture this morning. The picture above reminds me of how much joy she has in her heart... And it makes me wish she could find a full time job as a whale tale holder!
How was your weekend?
AG out!
PS ~ Seahawks won!
K3, see the world, whales in Daughters, Goofball, Preparation 
Reader Comments (13)
Been thinking about K3 and you and TOG every time I turn on my computer - which is a lot. I'm glad that K3 is doing okay. I can't imagine what you are all going through, but know that I am thinking and praying for all of you.
Sometimes it's the unknown that's the scariest part. I'm hoping the knowledge of where K3 stands, for better or for worse, makes things just a tad bit easier for all of you as time goes by. I'm thinking of you all.
PS - The Broncos lost. Big time. =[
I guess this proves the 'the truth isnt as scary as not knowing' ... and knowing helps make the future less uncertain .. in some ways and I am sure in others it makes it terrifying ... but you and TOG AND K3 are tough stuff ..
I am thinking of you all so much these days. And I know you will all arrive at the best place for everyone. I just know you will....
Good luck digesting, discussing and planning. I hope everything works out for you.
p.s. I picked the Seahwaks in me weekly pool! Go Seahawks!
A good friend and her husband went through a tough diagnosis with their eldest child many years ago. Same thing -- the not knowing for sure was the hardest, but she described the diagnosis as both liberating and something to be suffered, almost like a death. They grieved for a while, but ultimately the diagnosis lifted up their whole family and gave them so much peace and support. I hope it makes things easier for all of you. All my best, my dear Blister. : )
Sometimes there are just no words... {Hugsss}
One day at a time. ((hugs))
I'm so glad all three of you have something solid to work with. And that K3 is more peaceful knowing. My daughter was diagnosed ADD last week - she's 17 - and immediately felt happier than I have seen her in forever. It's better to know what exactly you're up against. And it doesn't change how much you love your daughter. Only helps to look forward better. Love you!
In a weird way it's like a divorce. As Laurie says above, it's like a death. With a divorce, you have a situation where the life you thought you had is no more -poof life as you know it is changed forever even though you might have had signals that these changes were coming or that things weren't quite right.
Once you find out for sure, you mourn its loss, then gradually decisions are made accordingly and you readjust your life to fit with the new information, the new norm. None of it is easy, but with time people adjust.
Hopefully things will continue to improve from an adjustment stand point. Hugs and more hugs. - cbw
I think it's terrific that K3 is feeling relaxed and at ease. That will bring happiness. Which it looks like she has lots of! Now that you know, you will figure out a course of action that is right for everyone. Life will go on. Enjoy every moment! Love you AG!
Wonderful photo of a remarkable young lady. Hugs and good thoughts to you, Diane, and all your family. This is the beginning of goodness to come.
Hang in there. Yes, take one day at a time. We're so fortunate to have people at our schools that for the most part have been so supportive, encouraging and enlightening that I can't imagine what it is like to have to work in a situation like you have had.
Yes, we're praying for you all.
Talk to you soon.
Love you!